I am inspired to write this article after several students shared their ups and downs with me these few days.
Incident 1:
Last week, my primary 3 student started his first lesson with me after a 2-week break from his exams. During the lesson, he confided in me that he felt upset as he did not make it through the second round of the Gifted Education Program test (GEP). He was a very intelligent boy who grasps concepts very quickly. I could fully empathize with him. I consoled him and started to counsel him by telling him that GEP is not the only route to academic excellence and shared with him the bigger picture of life: academic success does not equate to success in life. Even though these precious few minutes deviated from academic topics, I felt that I have taught my student an even more important lesson than science: the lesson on picking himself up from failure (in a different way) and learning to be positive and strive to be the best he can be in his own way.
Incident 2:
Several of my students are taking O Levels this year. The Physics MCQ examination was held last friday and the Chemistry MCQ examination was held this morning. After the physics and chemistry papers, three of them excitedly updated me their scores after their exams. (Apparently, their school teachers worked out the answers as they were doing the exams and gave them the answers after that. Hence, the students knew their scores straight after the paper). All three did very well, with marks ranging from 35 to 39 out of 40 marks. I was very happy for them as their hard work and perseverance paid off. When these students came to me, they had only D7 to C6 grades.
Both incidents touched me as a tutor as they signified that I have become more than a tutor in their hearts. I have become their confidante and their counsellor. As a tutor, I believe that besides helping my students to excel, I should also guide them to become more resilient individuals who are able to see beyond academic success and also learn timeless values like commitment, responsibility and integrity which will serve them will in their future endeavours.